Sunday, November 26, 2017

Little Interview....

My brain is pretty scrambled, but I think I can manage this little interview I found over at Joey's Pad.

Here are the 6 questions for this week:

1. tightly do you cling to tradition when it comes to holiday gatherings and celebrations? For instance do you always do the cooking, never eat at home, always go to grandma's, never miss the parade, always watch football, never change the menu, always eat at 2 PM, etc.? Have you ever celebrated Christmas or Thanksgiving away from hearth, home, and family? How did that feel?

I used to be much more attached to traditions. Now that the hubs and I are developing our own, things have become loosey-goosey. I tried to watch the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade and we agitated and repulsed and bored. I no longer feel compelled to bake for days on end-certainly not seasonal items that I don't even like much and are "have-tos." Fuck "have-tos." (Yes, I'm cranky)

I celebrated Thanksgiving on my own this year. Well, not really celebrated, I was just home, alone, on that day. It felt strange and a little lonely at first, then I started a to-do list and went with the flow. It was nice to have no strings!

Wondering what the future holds for our traditions... I love to host and holidays are also deeply personal to me. Being unable to accommodate my in-laws and not wanting my family around complicates things! IDK We shall see. 

I know I wanna do advent calendar and the pickle with BB for sure though :o)

2. it easy for you to ask for help or are you a do-it-yourselfer? How is that a good/bad thing?

I'm mostly a do-it-yourselfer although I quite often ask people instead of Googling something for myself, which can be a bit opposite... anyways. It's usually a good thing-I get things done. It can be really bad when I shame myself not being capable or wanting help and struggling when my inner voice tells me to suck it up. More and more I am asking for help or delegating and saying "no." I like it :o)

3. Abundance...what is there an abundance of in your kitchen?

Spices. And white washcloths. 

4. Name...the smallest thing you're thankful for? the biggest?

Smallest: Atoms.

Biggest: Love.

5. Key...What do you think is the key to living a more grateful life?

Mindfulness and releasing judgments and embracing the perspective that everything in our world exists on a spectrum. I don't think I'm exactly practicing gratitude when I practice radical acceptance and police my judgments, although I think it facilitates a more grateful and satisfying life for me. So I'm gonna stick with that.

6. State your own random thought here.

It's okay that I struggle with certain symptoms of my disorders... I've been self-conscious recently about my difficulty gauging proper social boundaries and trying to conduct myself in "appropriate" ways and holding my tongue or not sharing my true feelings or thoughts. I'm coming to a place where I'm okay not knowing what to do. Over the years, I might pick up on more things. If not, okay. I am who/what I am. I'm not my disorder, and still, it's part of me. That's okay. I don't have to mold myself to a cultural standard. I can just do me. People love and accept me for that, and those that don't-screw 'em.

That said, I'm gonna try to not be quite as vulgar in public... ;o)

Thinking of you all and hoping you're well! I managed to read a couple blogs just now and now I need to get away from computers for a bit.

Be well :o)


  1. Love your take on these questions.
    I am woeful on asking for help. I tell myself that 'normal people' can manage whatever it is, and work myself into a standstill. Slow learner that's me.

  2. Why is asking for help such a hard thing for many of us? What is your job? Are you lettering things like last year?

    1. I am writing on ornaments again this year! Stayed up at my friend's house to work the Cyber Monday rush for a few days. Quite exhausting and my lower back is hurting now :o( Still, it's fun if not more physically taxing than you might think!

  3. Over the years, many traditions have fallen by the wayside for me -- and that's just fine. Traditions are a lot of work. Usually thankless work.

  4. I keep things simple. I've got a Hanukkah party/dinner coming up mid-December and the memorial lunch for a friend this weekend. Nearly all of the small gifting I do has been done and I'm doing cards for the rest. Asking for help and being less vulgar in public are good, but you've done a hell of a good job adjusting to a new normal and dealing with all that has come your way...


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Be well, HBF