Summer so far has gone pretty well but it has cruised by and I'm sad to see my free days coming to an end.
I've made headway in my screenplay and written over a hundred pages. I'm following the teachings of a screenwriter named Syd Fields and did an exercise with notecards to outline my screenplay-well, I thought I would have more than enough to write but I've fallen short! I know what I need to do-more character development and transitional scenes-but I've hit a bit of a wall. He says most screenplays need to fall around 120 pages long, so I've got a bit to work in.
Also, I survived a trip to Washington state to visit my family WITHOUT the hubster! There was a little bit of drama with my sister. Apparently my mother offended her somehow (I think my sister's husband was chastising my nephew harshly and my mom stormed off and it offended Emma) and then it got spun around onto me. She was screaming at the top of her lungs "IT'S NOT ALWAYS ALL ABOUT HER!" at my back while I sheltered BB. He didn't seem phased but it was scary. The rest of the family didn't seem phased either. At least, I don't think her children cried and I didn't hear them. I'll admit I wasn't making eye contact or looking around the room at the time though. I just know after she and her family had left everyone was quiet and then continued on with what they were doing as if nothing had happened. I have no idea how often she loses it like that.
My sister texted me the next morning to apologize and claimed that she gets "fed up being on the backburner." When I told my friend the story and talked about how co-dependent my sister and my mother on, she said "sounds like she's on ALL the burners" and that made us laugh. I think that my family is still on eggshells around me, which is realistic considering how triggering and stressful they can be for me. I had no idea that my sister felt so.... unseen though. I guess that's a nice way to put it.
Bit of drama with the hubster's family while I was gone. Very unpleasant and saddening. He and his brother went on a hiking trip to one of the peaks here in Utah. Well, they got back a day early and decided to go downtown and hit some bars. We know that his brother has a "drinking problem" and we thought it was just that he likes alcohol and can't stop himself. The hubs is mindful to pace their drinking when they're together but it can be hard to control his brother's drinking.
What we didn't know is that his brother's drinking has a very dark side. At some point during their night out, his brother flipped a switch and became violent. He struck the hubs across the cheek and kicked him in the stomach. He was hauled off my SLC cops and told to go to a hotel to sober up away from the hubs. Well, he didn't. He Ubered to our house and demanded his way in. The hubs should've called the cops then but he didn't want a disturbance in the neighborhood. So, his brother got in the house. He continued to be violent, throwing a large floor fan and a bed at the hubs. Breaking his glasses and threatening to destroy our TV as well.
While the bed was protecting him (after it had been launched across the room) the hubster called 911 for the second time and 3-4 cops showed up to haul his brother off again. It was heartbreaking to hear since the hubs and his brother have just started becoming closer these past few years and especially since we've moved to Utah and been closer to him. The hubs assures me though that he isn't wrecked over it because he and his brother have been estranged for 2/3 of his life and his brother has made some awful choices in the past that made this mess not quite as shocking (still very shocking).
I said that I wished I had been home for it and the hubs said that he was glad I wasn't. It was so violent and BB and I would've just complicated things and made him distracted.
We are not sure what will happen. I mean, we know that he has charges against him and there will be a plea bargain or a trial sometime in the next year. We don't know if we'll get an apology or ever hear from his brother again but there is a no contact order right now with the legal stuff pending.
The hubster's parents are here right now and it's been interesting hearing their stories of his brothers from years past and discussing the whole mess with them. They are shocked and saddened as well, but like I said, his brother has had a history of some pretty bad choices so it's not unbelievable.
Wishing everyone a wonderful summer-or winter, depending on where ya be! I'm nervous about starting up again but trying to limit my worrying to daily problems, not future endeavors. I know that I'll be worrying enough once school starts!
